Kindness is a small act that can make a big difference. When children learn to be kind, they build strong friendships, feel better about themselves and help others feel safe and happy. It benefits both the giver and the receiver of a kind word or gesture. Kindness also supports mental health and helps children do better in school and life.

The good news? Kindness can be taught and practiced every day at home. Here are simple ways to help your child grow into a kind and caring person:

1. Model Kindness
Children learn by watching you. Say “please” and “thank you,” help others, and speak kindly. Your actions teach more than words.

2. Use kind words at home and school
Encourage children to ask questions to check in on others or share their gratitude:

• "Can I help you?"
• "Are you ok?"
• "Thank you for being my friend"

3. Practice Small Acts of Kindness
Kindness does not have to be big. A small gesture can have a big impact such as:

• Holding the door open
• Sharing toys or snacks
• Helping a sibling or classmate

4. Talk about feelings
Ask your child: “How would you feel if that happened to you?”
This helps build empathy, which means understanding how others feel.

5. Praise kind behaviors
When your child is kind, notice it and reinforce it by saying: “I saw you help your friend. That was very kind.” This positive reinforcement helps them to repeat the behavior.

6. Create a kindness routine
Try a “kindness challenge” for everyone in your family. Do one kind thing each day and have each member share it at dinner or before bedtime.

7. Encourage inclusion
Teach your child to include others, especially kids who may feel left out. A simple “come play with us” can mean a lot.

8. Limit unkind behavior
Talk about bullying and unkind words. Help your child understand that words can hurt and that kindness matters. Apologies are a way to show kindness after someone is wronged or hurt and helps children learn to think about the impact words and actions they use.

Kindness is a skill that grows over time. With practice and support, children can learn to be caring, respectful, and strong. By teaching kindness, you are helping your child build a happier future—for themselves and for others!

For more information, visit:

Kindness Benefits Children’s Mental Health - The Kids Mental Health Foundation

Kindness: How a Simple Act Can Make a Big Difference - HealthyChildren.org

Lauren Nuriddin, MD – PGY2

BayCare Pediatric Residency Program