Asking For Help

They say it takes a village to raise a child—but helping hands are just as important during pregnancy. You may be over the fatigue and morning sickness, but that growing baby bump (and the precious cargo inside) presents its own challenges.

When to ask for help

Many tasks are suddenly unsafe, or just too difficult, for expecting moms. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. You aren’t really asking for yourself—you’re asking for your little one.


Check with your doctor to be sure, but the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) recommends that pregnant women lift no more than 26 lbs. after the first trimester. Also keep in mind that your center of gravity has shifted due to your baby bump, so it’s easier to lose your balance or hurt your back when lifting heavy objects (this includes older children!).


Do you really need to climb the ladder to the attic while carrying that box of holiday decorations or outgrown clothes? Expectant moms should do their best to keep both feet on the ground, because a fall could be devastating for baby. Tasks that require ladders are best left for your spouse/partner or a helpful friend.

Pet care

Tops on the list of pregnancy no-no’s is changing the cat’s litter box—it can cause a nasty infection called toxoplasmosis that could cause serious harm to your baby. You may need help with other pet care tasks, too, such as walking a large, unruly dog or scooping their mess out of the yard.


It’s normal to feel overwhelmed with the day-to-day routine when you’re pregnant. Recruit friends or family to help watch your older children, drive them to soccer practice, help with homework, or just take them out for some fun while you catch a quick nap.


As your belly grows, it can become more difficult to fit behind the steering wheel (and the airbag is much too close for comfort). Let someone else chauffeur you around for a while, if possible.

At work

You’re entitled to accommodations at work, and most employers and coworkers are eager to help! If you need to adjust your schedule or workload, or if you just need a break from time to time, be sure and ask for what you need.