As teenagers navigate the emotional rollercoaster of adolescence, experts say one of the most powerful tools parents can offer is simple: connection. Adolescence is a time of rapid physical, emotional and social development. During these changes, strong relationships with trusted adults can be a stabilizing force. Whether it’s a quiet conversation after dinner or a shared laugh in the car, those everyday moments of connection can have a lasting impact.
Make Time to Listen
Danielle Lettieri, a BayCare Medical Group board-certified pediatric nurse practitioner, emphasizes that meaningful communication is key to supporting teen mental health.
“Teens often tell me that they don’t feel heard,” Lettieri said. “Sometimes it takes the parents putting down their phones, making eye contact and letting them speak without interruption.” Lettieri encourages parents to ask open-ended questions and validate their children’s emotions—even when their concerns may seem minor. “Even if their worries seem small to us, they are very big to them,” she said. “Communication really thrives when teens feel safe and not judged.”
Understand the Teen Brain
Understanding the adolescent brain is crucial, Lettieri noted. The prefrontal cortex, which governs logic and impulse control, is still developing in teens. As a result, they may react more emotionally or impulsively than adults expect.
“It’s not about being defiant, it’s about developmental stages,” she said. “If we remember that, we can respond more patiently - with less punishment and more guidance.”
Build Connection Through Shared Activities
Sharing activities can also help strengthen bonds. Lettieri suggests cooking together, hiking or watching movies, especially if it’s something the teen enjoys.
“Even driving practice can be a great time to talk,” she said. “Sitting side by side helps ease the pressure of eye contact and can make teens feel more comfortable opening up.”
Approach Social Media with Curiosity
While social media is a major part of teen life, it can create distance between parents and children. Lettieri advises parents to stay curious rather than controlling.
“Ask them about their favorite apps, let them teach you something,” she said. “Create boundaries together that feel fair and consistent. And most importantly, model what a healthy digital life looks like.”
For parents seeking additional guidance, Lettieri recommends BayCare’s partnership with the Kids Mental Health Foundation through the “On Our Sleeves” initiative. It offers free resources on social media use, family therapy and teen mental health.
Listen to the full conversation on the BayCare HealthChat podcast.
