Emotional and Family Issues in Children with Heart Disease

Many things influence how a child feels about having congenital heart disease. Some of these factors include:

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  • The type of defect. Some defects get better on their own with time. Other defects require surgery or multiple surgeries and ongoing medical care. 

  • The child's age at diagnosis. A child who was diagnosed at birth and who has grown up with the heart defect may adjust differently than a child who learns of his or her heart disease at an older age. 

  • The number of hospitalizations. Children who need many tests and procedures, surgeries, or hospitalizations may feel angry, fearful, resentful, or withdrawn.

  • The age of the child. Younger children may have trouble understanding their illness. They may misinterpret the reasons for tests and surgical procedures. Whereas, older children can better understand information about their illness and what it will take to make them well.

  • The coping skills and temperament of the child. Some children can deal with adversity better than others. Some children are more nervous or anxious than others.

  • Body image. Surgical scars, cyanosis (blue coloring of the skin, lips, and nailbeds), or the need for medical therapies, such as oxygen or feeding tubes, often make a child feel different from others. These can affect self-esteem and body-image.

  • Family dynamics. A child's emotions can be affected by the way his or her family members cope with the illness. Stress felt by the family caused by finances, work, and insurance problems can affect how your child copes. Siblings who are jealous of the extra attention the child with the heart defect may get may also affect your child's emotions.

Doctors, nurses, social workers, counselors, and other healthcare team members can provide guidance and recommendations for managing the many emotions that may accompany a chronic disease. They may also recommend community services and local support groups.

Local support groups are made up of children with congenital heart disease and their families. Ask about meetings, outings, and parties for children and their families. It often helps to talk to others in your situation, and for your child to experience activities with others that are like him or her. Your child's cardiologist (or the staff at the hospital) can give you more information about a group in your area.

Be sure to also ask about special camps that have been created for children with congenital heart disease to help them interact with each other and have fun. Many of the volunteer counselors at these camps are nurses, doctors, respiratory therapists, and other medical professionals who love having fun with the children in a camp setting, but who are also able to give medicines and help with special needs of children with congenital heart disease.